THE non-violent communication (CNV) is a model, a way of seeing the world, a mental and emotional state. Its theoretical-practical bases were established by Marshall Rosenberg in the early 1960s.
The premise is that all human beings are capable of expressing compassion. But due to the socio-cultural conditioning of win-lose relationships, we have reduced our emotional vocabulary to something that borders on dysfunctionality.
Habits of thinking and speaking that lead to the use of violence (social, psychological and physical) are learned through culture.
CNV assumes that all human behavior stems from attempts to meet universal human needs.
Needs are never in conflict. Instead, a conflict arises when strategies for meeting needs clash.
CNV proposes that people identify the shared needs, revealed by the thoughts and feelings that surround these needs, and collaborate to develop strategies and make requests from each other to meet the needs of each one.
This article aims to summarize the book “Nonviolent Communication - Techniques to improve personal and professional relationships” by Marshall Rosenberg and to connect the nuances of this methodology with other approaches to offer a practical guide to all those who wish to put into practice and have a small “guide” pocket ”to assist the process.
Note that this guide is in no way intended to replace a course or reading the book itself. The goal is just to spread this philosophy of life to as many people as possible, to update the presentation of the content for the modernity of the internet and to make the content even more accessible.
My dream is that we come to a day when we no longer need to talk about tools, just apply them. But until we get there we all have to play our hummingbird to put out the fire in the jungle.